An Explanation of Happiness
Oct18

An Explanation of Happiness

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. — Dalai Lama There are few things in life we pursue as consistently and determinedly as happiness. Heck, “the pursuit of happiness” is inscribed in the US Constitution (i.e., so you know it’s legit). But for as important as we all agree happiness is, the field of psychology hasn’t treated it so. For example, in 1981, there were close to 130 publications on...

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The Mind of a Terrorist
Oct11

The Mind of a Terrorist

There’s nothing more dangerous in this world than a humiliated man. — Kai Anderson, American Horror Story: Cult It’s hard to turn on the news these days with humans committing more and more extreme acts against one another. Whether that is explicit terrorism or a horrific mass shooting, in response to these events, we often (rightfully) feel anger. Anger, though, is often a “secondary” emotion. That is, we use anger to protect...

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Warm Parent, Cold Parent
Sep20

Warm Parent, Cold Parent

Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. — Robert Fulghum Parenting is hard—or at least I assume it must be. I mean I’ve never been a parent, but thinking of myself as a child takes little effort to recall moments that must have caused my parents to debate the age restriction on fire station drop-offs. And I was the good child 😉 Now, for nearly all forms of life, an animal’s...

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Who Helps Whom?
Jul05

Who Helps Whom?

We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don’t know. — W.H. Auden In the 5th grade, a nameless young girl saved my life. Well, she saved me $0.75, which is kind of like saving one’s life at that age. At a garage sale, I found a basketball signed by Damon Stoudamire, one of my favorite players at the time. And for this signed ball, the adult was only charging $0.75… Say...

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The Scarlet T
Jun07

The Scarlet T

You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.  — Marianne Williamson Today’s topic took a bit of courage for me to write about. It’s hard to put any version of yourself on the Internet that isn’t perfect, our strong social motivations always wanting to portray ourselves from the most flattering angles. So, to publicly inform others of something “negative” about oneself can be rather scary. But I...

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