Only that traveling is good which reveals to me the value of home and enables me to enjoy it better. – Henry David Thoreau
There really is nothing like returning to your childhood home. Or in my case, returning to the place I lived last year as a semi-grown adult.
And after spending the last year in Columbus, OH with two other guys in a rundown apartment where the majority of my food preparation was inputting three minutes on the microwave (or for fancy food, 1.5 minutes, a quick stir, then another 1.5 minutes) it’s quite lovely to be back in Portland.
Having your dad do the cooking for you. Having your mom do the laundry for you. No mice in your kitchen or hole in the roof that leaks water you only discover when you slip on it and spill your fresh bowl of pasta everywhere.
Yes, that was upsetting.
But it’s not just anecdotal accounts that ascribe such pleasure to returning home. There’s actual science! And in fact, my undergrad professor, Jerry Burger, was the one to conduct it.
Offering $25 to anyone who would come in for an hour-long session to fill out some surveys and respond to some personal inquiries, he provided an open-ended question to
participants (average age of 50) on whether or not he or she had ever returned to their childhood home.
And in fact, two-thirds of all people who came in expressed that they had sojourned to their childhood abode after moving away—even those who hadn’t been home for 40 years! Furthermore, a fourth of the participants actually refused payment because they had simply enjoyed talking about their home so much.
Although this isn’t the most “scientific” study, further research goes on to confirm and expand these original findings. Now, a basic explanation for this emotional connection stems from two fundamental psychological phenomena: classical conditioning and the Pollyanna principle.
I’ve covered classical conditioning previously, but essentially by having either positive or negative emotions in or around your home, you are pairing an event with the object, that is, when you think about the object (i.e. your home), it evokes the event (i.e. happy memories).
Now, even though we have both positive and negative memories associated with our home, the Pollyanna principle states that as time passes, our memory becomes better at recalling the positive aspects of an event/object rather than the negative ones.
For example, psychologists interviewed a group of bicyclists before, during, and after a 3-week ride through California. Although 61% of the bicyclists were disappointed toward the end of the trip, one week later, only 11% were disappointed.
It is true (and deeply saddening) that some people have had such negative childhood experiences that it precludes any joy they deserved to have experienced. However, for those of us blessed enough to have had a loving home, take a moment to recall some of those memories, and remember, with time, they’re only bound to get better.